There was a moment today, as I walked around the block in Lismore, when I felt really quite sad.
It’s three and a half months since I’ve been home, and it’s fourteen months since last year’s devastating floods.
Deep down, I’d hoped the progress towards recovery might have been a little more profound than what I saw today.
On the positive, there are many more re-opened shops around the main block. I’d estimate maybe thirty percent of the shops have re-opened. There are also some wonderful new businesses which have opened, including a fairly trendy new bar (The Levee), and a new Mexican restaurant.
But there was also a lot of shops that show no signs of re-opening, or are up for sale. I looked in the real estate windows, and most houses in town seem to be down $100k to $200k on what they might previously have sold for.
As I walked around the block, no one looked terribly happy. But maybe that’s because it was around lunchtime on a Monday? Or maybe it’s just because winter is on the way? Maybe things will be brighter towards the weekend? Or maybe everyone is so incredibly tired after what they’ve been through since February 28, 2022?
Most of the houses in our part of South Lismore remain empty. Some have even been demolished, including the house which (in)famously caught on fire in the midst of the flood.
I’m not sure why, but many of the houses in Engine Street, South Lismore were quite badly damaged. There are now a couple of empty blocks where houses used to be.
Elliott Road, South Lismore
Elliot Road, South Lismore
Elliot Road, South Lismore
Despite the apparent glumness of the town, it’s lovely being with family.
I haven’t been home for a few months because Pat had a fall in January, broke her leg in multiple places (she’s old, with weak bones due to many years of heavy smoking), and has been in rehabilitation at Ballina. I’m here for a couple of weeks to help out with some cooking, cleaning, and company.
And there are some signs of life (literally) with posters for music, theatre and other activities.
The Levee Lounge & Bar is a really nice new bar that’s opened since last year’s flood. They’re putting on live music, drag shows and lots of other fun things.This poetry night is being held in a theatre/hall in a nearby street in South Lismore, so I’ll likely take a look.This play opens on my final night in Lismore before heading back. It sounds interesting, so I’ll likely grab a ticket.Without seeking to oversimplify the sentiment behind this, there is a view amongst some people in Lismore that the reconstruction process is too much “from the top”, ignoring some of the concerns of many residents who are socio-economically disadvantaged. I’ll pop over, take a look, record some video, images etc, and blog about this on the weekend.
“Just one night has changed our lives forever”, my relative Jack reflected today.
Though previously the heart was part of the logo for Lismore anyway, it took on a more profound meaning for community connection in the weeks and months after the flood https://thelimbshift.com/2022/10/lovemore/ I spotted this on some shop hoarding on Keen Street.
If I think about all of the things which have happened in terms of gay life in Lismore during my lifetime, there’s a lot to reflect upon.
As a teenager, I remember the homophobic editorials of Jim Brigginshaw, Editor of “The Northern Star”. I remember doing a school project, aged 16, where I was part of a group that interviewed him, and I was terrified. Lismore’s Big Log: As a teenager, I also remember the social scene was very much based around “the beats”, and in particular, the log outside the City Hall. For me, it wasn’t a “sex culture”, it was a social outlet to meet other guys. The house behind the trees was once home to “Double Dutch”, Lismore’s first gay-owned and operated restaurant, and which was very much a home to Lismore’s gay community during the 1980s. Later, the house became a residence for a couple: Les and Russell. Yes, South Lismore really did change!
I also remember Mike Bray and Vera Bourne (the mother of a schoolmate) hosting Gaywaves on the same community radio station I volunteered at (2NCR). As a young teenager, I remember listening in my bedroom on a Tuesday night. Later I went on to fill in as presenter on a few occasions. I remember the start of “Tropical Fruits”.
Winsome Hotel, Lismore: As an adult I remember the opening of The Winsome as a gay pub. The pub my dad used to drink at when I was a child, was suddenly the place to be.
As an adult, I also remember heading off to Tropical Fruits the night before my school reunion.
Tropical Fruits NYE at Lismore Showground
A lot has changed in Lismore, and I’m so proud the city in which I grew up hosts Tropical Fruits. Today, it was the street parade. Bravo Tropical Fruits.
Tropical Fruits Parade and LaunchTropical Fruits Parade and LaunchTropical Fruits Parade and LaunchTropical Fruits Parade and LaunchTropical Fruits Parade and Launch
As the opening beats from “Don’t Say No” by Midnight Boy came from the speakers of my television, for just a brief moment, I was transported back to the 80s and to Brisbane’s (in)famous nightclub, The Beat. Back in those days, Joh Bjelke-Peterson was still the Premier of Queensland, and I was a young man about town who would often head out on Sunday nights with friends to dance to tracks like “You Spin Me Round” (by Dead or Alive), “Relax” (by Frankie Goes To Hollywood) and others. Both the music and lyrics of “Don’t Say No” are highly reminiscent of that era.
It was an unexpected welcome opening for the fourth heat of this year’s Melodifestivalen, the competition which chooses Sweden’s entry for the Eurovision Song Contest. It was a heat I was anticipating very much due to the Australian connection. Days before Australia went on to announce Guy Sebastian (yawn) would represent Australia at this year’s contest, we already had an Australian connection. The band JTR were born in Sweden, but lived in Australia for about a decade, before returning to Sweden a few months ago. They have an Australian step-father, I understand, and while living here, competed in the X-Factor television show. I thought their song and performance were both quite good, and so was pleased they made it through to the final in a couple of weeks time. Oh yeah, and they lived in Logan City, a place where I associate with “losing my virginity”. :) Another story.
The other “Australian connection” (albeit a slim one, he recently holidayed here) was Måns Zelmerlöw. I’ve been a fan of his for a few years. He sings well, he performs well, and he’s pretty easy on the eye (check out this image on his Instagram account and you’ll see what I mean). The song wasn’t all that memorable, but he performed it well, and the presentation was a little more interesting than the usual stand on stage and perform routine, interacting with animations on the screen.
Aside from those three, there was nothing particularly exciting about the remaining entries. “It’s like it’s still 2009”, my friend Graeme said the other week, remarking the formula has become a little stale with the same song-writers every year, and an apparent cookie-cutter approach to selecting the singers and the songs. After the nightmare of last year’s co-presenters, things have improved this year, with Robin and Sanna being good choices. But what was with the comedy appearance by the contest’s producer, Christer Björkman? My feeling is that he has done a terrific job over the past decade with the contest, but maybe it’s time for him to move on, allowing for a regeneration of the contest.
Having now seen all four heats, I’ve decided my firm favourite is Jon Henrik Fjällgren, the reindeer herder from a Sami community up north. Andra Chansen (second chance) is this week, and then a week later, Sweden will choose its entry for Eurovision. It’s a shame we didn’t go through a similar selection process for Austraia.
My main plan for the day was a four-hour tour which started at about lunchtime. Anticipating I was gonna be bloody hungry by the end of it, I snacked on a Czech sausage from a road-side stall just before-hand.
The sausage was pretty tasty, and for about $2 Australian, I got a 600ml bottle of coke thrown in. In what I’m sure looked like a scene from “Carry On Prague”, I gulped it down. Whatever way you try, though, you just don’t look pretty eating one I’ve decided.
Before the tour started I also had a chance to speak to Paul from “Paul’s Tours – The Real Tour Of Prague”. Paul himself is an English expat who has lived here for ten years. When I asked him, “Why are you here? Was it love?”, he replied it was the love of beer first of all, and then the love of a woman. Ahhh….
Our tour guide was a local bloke, Mikael (sp?) who has been doing only half a dozen tours every summer for the last five years. “At first Paul asked my sister, because she was prettier”, he said. I laughed, thinking of how much he looked like one of the actors in my own extensive collection of cinematic works from the Czech Republic.
The tour is long by comparison with most city tours I’ve been on. Four hours. But that includes a 45 minute stop at a more genuinely local pub than most tourists would otherwise visit. And, although the rain and cold weather were annoying for most of the tour group – mostly young Australians actually who had it as part of their package – I never once wondered when it was going to end.
There’s a heavy emphasis on architecture and history which I personally loved, though I suspect a couple of the younger backpackers may have lost interest from time to time. “Did you hear that?”, I heard one bloke say to his friend. When he replied no, his mate said “Ah, it doesn’t matter anyway”.
There are, however, a few pop culture references, as you’re taken by the John Lennon Wall (started as an anti-commuist protest in the wake of his death) and, you’re also shown a stairwell where they shot the opening sequence of a Mission Impossible movie.
Prague Town ClockCharles Bridge, Prague
But mostly it covers several hundred years of Czech history, with a particular emphasis on Czech independance. There’s a few things you wouldn’t have known, for example, if you hadn’t been told. There are bullet holes all over the National Museum from the 1968 revolution. There is also a hidden memorial to two students from that time who died tragically very young.
Our tour leader, Mikal (sp?) was excellent. Very knowledgeable. Very funny. And very charming. And I’d recommend the tour to anyone visiting Prague.
That tour took up most of the day actually. Aside from that, I’ve had a lovely breakfast at the hostel, and now I’m back here for a quick beer and a blog.
Those staying at the hostel are quite a bit younger than I’ve been used to elsewhere. Most seem to be doing “the big trip” with ten countries in ten days. There’s a bunch of Irish lager louts for example, who seem to spend most of the day at the bar discussing sport and such. They’ve been joined this afternoon by an Australian bloke . I’ve overheard the phrase “Foookin English” more than once.
Part of Lennon Wall
It’s been fascinating being around these young folk, a timely reminder of what I was like when I was younger. Last night, for example, I listened in to the somewhat naïve conversation of an American bloke with a Czech in which the American bloke explained about “how true revolution can be achieved”. I just know that twenty years ago I would have been that stupid American.
1968 Memorial, Prague
And then today, I overheard an Australian bloke chatting to some Scottish girls about life and culture. When one of the girls mentioned calleys (sp?) the traditional Scottish dance party, he replied “We don’t really have anything like that. I mean, we’ve got The Nutbush” which I thought was one of the most genuinely funny lines I’ve ever heard in my life.
With my transport ticket, I’ve found the city easy to get around, and the locals are friendly. The only negative thing was the toilets at Museum Station. Ewwww. And I had to pay! Still it was the equivalent to about one-third of a cent Australian, so I shouldn’t complain. Oh yeah, and they still have smoking in restaurants and bars. That’s pretty gross too. But otherwise, I’m lovin’ Prague.
What a piece of work I am. Or might be, according to astrology.
I’m in a discussion right now with some people around Chinese New Year, and I’ve noted that 2013 is “my year”. It’s the “Year Of The Snake”.
So what is a Snake? According to one website I found…
People born under the year of the Snake tend to exhibit the following characteristics: they are intellectual, superstitious, sceptical, astute, have elegance, innate wisdom, and possibly some levels of supernatural capability. Snake people rarely seek independent advice or advice from others, possibly because on the whole they don’t communicate well with others. They tend to be very private people, but when they are riled they like to “settle old scores”. Generally they are very deliberate about whatever they say. They like to think first and speak later and they also have a cautious business sense. It is in their nature to be very unremitting and suspicious and this results in a character that is both slow to forgive, highly calculative, somewhat hateful in nature and can certainly bide their time in order to reap their revenge. Other features include: leading dangerous lives that are full of thrills and intrigue, yet they keep a firmness of purpose and a clear presence of mind.
Woh! That’s pretty intense.
I’m also a Scorpio. That’s also pretty intense, according to one website…
People can see you as insensitive to others’ needs, even obsessive, because you push forward so single-mindedly. There are no half-measures in your life — in friendship, love, family life or work. You want to be the best, and you won’t let anything stand in the way. But on the plus side, you like to share your successes with the people you take under your wing, whether they’re family or friends. You’re not afraid of obstacles or challenges, whether they are something unavoidable or foes or competitors. In fact, you thrive on them — you love trying to prove that no one can stop you. If someone tries to corner you or put you in a difficult situation, they’d better be prepared to give it their best shot, because you won’t give in until you win, and your enemy is totally crushed in body, mind and spirit. If that ruthless streak in your character can’t be satisfied straight away, you’ll wait, patiently, until the proper time to seek revenge. Time is of no consequence to you when it comes to wreaking vengeance.
Though I did find this, which makes me slightly less scarey…
Being born between the 3rd and 11th November makes you more idealistic and spiritual by nature. You have a strong leaning towards understanding the meaning of life and delving deeply into the true nature of your being.
Even though I don’t believe in all this stuff, it is interesting that my birth declares I have elements of the “scary signs” of both Astroloogical calendars – Snake and Scorpio. It can’t be true…
Even with the Aussie sun blazing at 40°C, some traditions are hard to shake! Like many of my generation, I grew up with a classic Sunday roast lunch, followed by a comforting plate of bubble and squeak on Sunday evening. These days, life’s a bit too hectic to prepare a whole roast, so a group of friends and I have started the “First Sunday Roast Club.”
Mishy’s at Surry HillsDuke of ClarenceMorrrison’s on George StreetForrester’s at Surry Hills
This adventure began a few months ago, around the first anniversary of a life-changing event for me – a lower leg amputation. To celebrate life and friendship, we decided to indulge in a monthly tradition. Each month, one of us takes charge, finding a Sydney restaurant that serves up a delicious Sunday roast. We make a reservation, and whoever’s free joins in. There’s always the option to bring a guest, though we haven’t explored that much yet.
I’m in charge of finding our next venue, and have a few ideas swiling around my head. So far, there’s only one I’ve ruled out. I tried a nearby RSL, and while their roast was plentiful, I thought there was a little too much “Gravox” involved. If you have a Sunday Roast suggestion for Sydney, please comment below.
Here are some photos of our culinary adventures so far! The photos pretty much speak for themselves – the food has been fantastic. Of course, the lively conversation and good wine only add to the experience.
POST SCRIPT – New photographs taken after the original post.
“Christmas Roast” at Strawberry Hills HotelLord Dudley – February 2025Roast beef at the Woolpack Hotel, Redfern, April 13, 2025Roast Lamb at the Dove & Olive, Surry Hills 04/05/25The Village Inn, Paddington 15/06/25The Rocker, Bondi 24/08/25The Old Fitzroy 21/09/25The Trinity, Surry Hills 09/11/25The Waratah, Darlinghurst 11/01/26
In the back of my mind, there’s a vague fragment of a slither of a memory of having seen a production of “The Glass Menagerie” about twenty-five years ago (or more likely more) at a theatre in Brisbane. La Boite Theatre, maybe? Even so, my memory doesn’t extend much beyond the image of a woman sitting at the front of the stage obsessing over her small glass figurines. Without much of a memory beyond that, being Tennesee Williams, I just assumed there would have been repressed homosexual men with alcohol problems and unsatisfied women with mental health issues. I’m being silly of course, but you have to admit, these are characteristics you do find in other works by him including “Cat On A Hot Tin Roof” and “A Streetcar Named Desire” which are two of my favouite plays of all time.
Image from Belvoir Street Theatre.
As we made our way to Belvoir Street Theatre last night, Sue read out loud the article on Wikipedia outlining the plot until the point where we both decided we had reached “spoiler” territory. But in short, and without a spoiler, it’s a play set in 1910/1920s America, the South, about a woman and her two children, none of whom are very happy with their lives. The mother was deserted by her husband many years ago, forcing her to raise her children by herself, both of whom she describes as “not normal”: the daughter has a slight disability, and the son goes out drinking most nights, with a slight suggestion he might also be homosexual. The plot-line centres around the mother’s desire for her daughter to be “married off before it’s too late”.
Before the play started last night the director came out to explain this was the first public preview after an intense week of technical rehearsals. “This could be really good or you might be witnessing one of the worst, most memorable moments of Australian theatre”, he joked. It was pretty evident shortly into the production why the technical rehearsals had been so intense: this production relies HEAVILY (in the first half at least) on video effects. Screens to the left and right of the stage feature images captured from on-stage cameras in the style, I’m guessing, of a 1940s movie. Sue and I both agreed the reliance on the narrator on stage to have to move the cameras around became distracting. We both found we sometimes spent more time watching him than we did watching the action on stage. The set, although really clever, was also a little distracting, as much of the action took place at the back of the stage behind a flimsy see-through curtain. We both really understood what they’re trying to achieve with the set and video, but it just didn’t do it for us.
Which is a shame, because it’s a really good play. “It’s much more complex than I’d imagined”, I whispered to Sue at one point. If you’ve grown up in a family with any degree of dysfunctionality, you’ll immediately realise how believably flawed the characters are. The performance by the actor who played the daughter, Laura was, in particular, really good: really honest, really authentic etc.
It will be interesting to see how audiences and critics judge the production as it opens in coming weeks, being mindful of what the director said last night.