I received a “Year in Review” post today from YouTube Music, and thought it would be fun to share my top 5 most played songs of the year.
All of these songs have been great company throughout the year, and they’ve often resulted in me dancing around the lounge room. They’ve been great for stress relief and relaxation. I might be fast approaching 60, but I still love a good pop song.
Real Power by Gossip : I LOVE this fierce track which challenges societal norms on many levels and celebrates female empowerment, both lyrically and in the film clip’s imagery.
Flowers by Miley Cyrus : This is such a great sing-along song. “Flowers” is a breakup anthem that celebrates self-love and independence. Apparently, the lyrics are based on her own experience of a breakup. She was married to an Australian actor, I think, though I don’t care enough to look it up. I think my favourite bit of trivia about Miley Cyrus is that her god mother is Dolly Parton.
Dance Your Pain Away by Agnetha Faltskog : This upbeat disco track encourages you to let go of your worries and dance your pain away. This is a remix of a song released about a decade ago, hence no actual video clip. She’s doing okay for 74 years old!
No More Drama by Mary J. Blige : This has been a long-term favourite, in part because the track samples “Nadia’s Theme”, also the theme music to “The Young & The Restless”. In fact, she refers to herself as being “young and restless”. The theme of the song is about self-respect and overcoming toxic relationships. The video is compelling. Passionate!
Violent Thing by Benjamin Dolic : This was Germany’s entry to Eurvosion a couple of years ago, and despite the kind of haunting lyrics about love, violence, and addiction, it’s also a great song to dance along to. Ben also has fantastic eyelashes!!
BONUS TRACK : This was my number six song of the year. The incredibly catchy “Rush” by Troye Sivan. I’m only sharing it because it has a very suggestive (explicit??) video clip.
Today’s list also gave me a list of my favourite / most listened to podcasts of the year, but I won’t bore you with it, as it was all about politics.
Who needs an Australian entry in Eurovision, when we might already have one?
There’s a lot of excitement today in Australia about our confirmed “wild card” entry in this year’s Eurovision Song Contest.
I actually seriously think much of Europe would vote for Australia out of “sympathy”/”admiration”/”a sense of fun”, and with the large number of expats in Europe (about 1-million), I genuinely think next year’s contest could be held at the Sydney Opera House.
But of course Australia already has an entry (of sorts), participating in Eurovision in the forthcoming fourth heat of Melodifestivalen with the band JTR. They’re up against a lot of competition, but you never know. And if they miss out, they could be the Australian entry. :) Well, the flights would be cheaper from Stockholm than Sydney.
The article below explains they lived in Australia from 2006, because that’s where their step-father comes from. Brissie, to be precise. But they moved back recently.
This item shows at least one of them has picked up an Australian accent, at least
TR är gruppen som slagit igenom stort i Australien. Nu är de redo att ta över Sverige – och Melodifestivalscenen.
JTR består av tre bröder från Alingsås som slog igenom i X-Factor Australien 2013. De slutade på en sjundeplats i tävlingen och slog igenom stort i Australien där tävlingen följdes upp av radioturnéer, albumlansering, miniturné och showcases.
På hemmaplan såg man bland annat killarna i Lotta på Liseberg i somras då de framförde singeln ”Ride”. De var även förband åt The Fooo Conspiracy vid deras show Vertigo i Stockholm och Göteborg. JTR’s första album hette ”Touchdown”.
Trots framgångarna utomlands, ser killarna Sverige och Alingsås som sitt hem. Sedan 2006 har de bott periodvis i Australien eftersom deras styvpappa kommer därifrån.
As we entered Noma (Sydney) for lunch yesterday, there was a real sense of “showbiz”. As we were shown to our table, the four of us were greeted by probably twenty or thirty staff. “Hello, hello, welcome”. Having lived all my life in Australia, I often feel cynical about such displays of hospitality. Though such displays often feel contrived, this seemed to me very genuine. Over the next two and half to three hours, as we enjoyed our meals, and chatted with the staff, it became pretty obvious the staff were, too, lovers of fine food.
Though I’ve visited Copenhagen a few times, I’ve never been to Noma. Their seasons are always sold out weeks/months in advance. But I have read about Noma, and its reputation as a world class restaurant. In particular, I’ve been interested in the work done by the chef and co-owner, René Redzepi in re-inventing Nordic cuisine, and by his innovative use of unusual/interesting ingredients. When they announced a ten week season in Sydney, I was certainly interested, though not confident I’d be lucky enough to secure a seat/table. There are still 27,000 people (or something like that) on the waiting list. Thanks to the perseverance of Damien (running a couple of computers simultaneously) we were lucky enough to secure a table. And so yesterday, after months of anticipation, four of us sat down and enjoyed a remarkable lunch.
Porridge of golden and desert oak wattleseed with saltbush
From the opener (macadamia in a spanner crab broth) to the closer (a fresh take on bon bons), everything was a surprise and a delight. There were many highlights. For me, they included the “dumpling” of marron and magpie goose (eat it like a taco), the sea urchin with tomatoes and berries, and the marinated fresh fruit (which included teaming up watermelon with a very bitter native plum). There were thirteen courses in all, and absolutely no sense of “I’m still hungry, let’s get some Maccas on the way home”.
Abalone schnitzel and bush condimentsSeafood platter and crocodile fat.
Another particular highlight for me was the deep sea snow crab served in a sauce of egg yolk and fermented kangaroo. Though I’ve eaten crab all my life, I’ve never had crab like this before. The particular crab we were served lives in such deep waters that they’re actually white. There’s little/no lite where they live in waters off the continental shelf. We learned an awful lot about crab, actually, as we got chatting with a lovely family from Western Australia, who actually supplied the crab for the restaurant. “René came for dinner one night”, we were told, as we began to better understand how the team from Noma had spent several months/weeks/days traveling around Australia sourcing ingredients and then developing the uniquely Australian meals. “A world-class chef comes to your place for dinner. Pressure much? I joked.
That was one of the great things about the afternoon: the shared experience. After the meal, the opportunity to meet the family from WA made it all the more enjoyable, as they too share a love of food. Around the rest of the room, I noticed other people were similarly making friends.
Marinated fruits
I’ve been a little sick over the last week, and so chose not to have the matched wines (shock! horror!) but Damien, Kristen, and Glenn did, and they all said they were all very well-matched. They were also, I think, natural wines, meaning there were without preservatives. Though I do love wine, I equally enjoyed the meal, I think, without drinking.
As each meal was served the staff explained in detail (without too much detail) the meal, and seemed really happy to answer our many, many questions :) They definitely earned their keep :)
“I’ve tried to explain this to people at work, spending so much money on lunch but they just didn’t understand”, one of us said, “Noma”. For the last few months, I’ve been feeling lots of “Catholic Guilt” about this also. The “guilt” comes from the fact that I’m a working-class boy from a small country town in Australia. The money I spent on LUNCH would feed whole families in some parts of the world for weeks, if not months. In my own mind, I balanced it out because I do contribute a fair bit of money to a couple of charities that help people around the world.
But how do you explain spending so much money on lunch to your colleagues/ friends/ family who live equally “first world lifestyles”? According to my friend, you ask them how much money they’ve recently spent on a rock concert. Many people in Australia (and other “first world nations”) will routinely spend several hundred dollars on a ticket to a rock concert. Personally, I spent three or four hundred dollars to see Bette Midler and Liza Minelli. I know a few people who spent over seven hundred dollars to see Barbra Streisand. So my perspective on this is simple: it was like the greatest rock concert of all time (for food), and we got to meet and chat (at length) with the star.
My first proper day in Beijing has been a day of contrasts. There have been some things I’ve loved and some things I’ve loathed. Mostly though I’ve loved my first day which started with a walk around the neighbourhood in which Kate is living, called Tuanjiehu.
The apartment block in which Kate is living is 14 stories, has a little shop at the bottom, and is almost exclusively inhabited by Chinese people (I assume). It’s a lovely apartment which, though it’s located quite close to the subway, is reasonably quiet.
As we walked around the shops and markets, Kate chatted to some of the people she regularly sees in her daily living. It was a really lovely experience getting to know a little more about her life in Beijing, except in a very abstract sense.
Our most important task this morning, however, was to “register” me with the police. If you’re not staying in a hotel or a hostel or other type of “official accommodation” (that is, you’re staying privately), there’s a requirement for you to register with the police within 24-hours of arrival. Although it sounds quite scary, it was reasonably straightforward.
Around mid-morning, we wandered to a nearby park, Tuanjiehu Gonguan. As we entered the park there was a stream of people coming out. Unfortunately we’d just missed a public performance by a large choir. Kate chatted to some of the people organising the performance, and determined they perform Monday, Tuesday, Thursday and Friday at 9.00am. Luckily, we caught a more informal singing group. There’s something about public singing that I really love so much.
We also saw some people practicing their calligraphy in the park. There was an old man, in particular, who was very good at his craft.
From there, we caught the bus to Qianmen at the south end of Tiananmen Square.
Almost instantly, we had a bite to eat at Quan Jude Kao Ya. The duck with pancakes were fan-bloody-tastic.
It was there, though, I had my first “real” Chinese toilet experience: I held my nose and went about my business. Another experience later in the day was just plane gross. When it comes to this aspect of China, I admit I’m quite “Western” in my thinking.
For me, the most impressive part of the day came next, as we walked around some of the hutongs around Dazhilan. The little laneways and back streets were truly fascinating to traverse. We wandered down one street which seemed largely to consist of sex shops, selling everything from dildos and blow up dolls to herbal viagra. Other streets had little hole-in-the-wall eateries and clothing stores.
On a more mainstream level, Kate also took me to a terrific tea shop and a shop that sold Chinese medicine.
Man cooking a large pot of miscellaneous animal pieces
Later in the afternoon, Kate wandered back home and I continued sight-seeing at the Forbidden City. It wasn’t long after that I realised some of the perils of being a middle-aged single white man in Asia. You get hit on for just about everything. You’re offered tours. You’re also probably offered sex. (Yes, really). After a while it all got a bit much for me, and so I left prematurely. I’ll plan a later visit to the Forbidden City to enjoy it when it’s less of a tourist trap, I hope. Even this evening, the offer for me to go into “girls bars” was on a par with King’s Cross in Sydney.
Lots of photography
Although I have absolutely no knowledge of the Chinese language aside from hello, please and thankyou, later this afternoon I was reasonably proud of myself, having navigated my way home on the subway. I also coped reasonably well with the over-crowded trains: it was literally standing room only.
Tonight I also went to The Village at Sun Litun. I needed to make a purchase. Co-incidentally there was also a jazz band from Melbourne playing in the shopping centre which I listened to briefly.
On the way home, I also called in to a bar with live music. On the wall there was a description of it as a “boys and girls” bar. While the band played soft-rock in Chinese, they screened CBS television from America live.
For me the biggest surprise of Day One was the extent to which Beijing has become “Westernised”. I don’t know what I was expecting, but I was certainly expecting something a little “less capitalist”.’
“I’ve got a spread-sheet listing accommodation, transportation and entertainment on a day to day basis”, I told Damien when we chatted online today. “I’m sure you have”, he replied. I think Damien thinks I tend to overplan things, whereas my friend Graeme thinks I underplan things. For example, I’m sure Graeme thinks I should have purchased thermal underwear by now, whereas I’m happy to wait until I get to Sweden to see if I need it, and then to purchase the right kind of thermal underwear for the climate. On the other hand, I’m happy that I’ve booked all but a few days accommodation (and have made good savings due to the advance notice), and have purchased tickets to a number of concerts and other activities I’m planning to attend. It’s odd, though, since Graeme tends to be a last minute-traveller, whereas I like to plan in advance. We all travel differently I guess.
Anyway, today I booked some more accommodation and plotted things out a bit more. Today I booked a hotel in Gävle, Hotell Gävle for two nights, co-inciding with the ABBA Tribute featuring Magnus Carlsson amongst others in nearby Sandviken. I haven’t actually worked out how I’m getting between Gävle and Sandviken, though there’s probably a bus or train or something. And I also booked a bed in a dormitory for a few days at same hostel I stayed eighteen months ago. It’s clean, well-located, and a good price.
So I’m clear now that I have only five days accommodation in Stockholm to think about. My head tells me I should probably just book into the same hostel but my heart tells me I should keep my options open in case I decide to do something different. So in summary, half my trip will be in budget (but nice) single rooms (barely able to swing a cat and half with shared facilities) and roughly half will be in hostels. There’s also a few days here and there in nice accommodation too.
I like balance. And I guess that’s why I like the Swedish word, “lagom”. Although I understand there’s no direct translation for the world in English, the essence of it is “just the right amount”.
Just two years ago, my life took an unexpected turn with the amputation of my lower right limb. Today marks that anniversary, or as I’ve playfully dubbed it, my “stump-iversary.” I even briefly entertained the idea of a foot-shaped cake to celebrate, though I quickly decided against it. While my family has a quirky sense of humor and usually plays along, I’m pretty sure that would have been the moment they declared me officially mad!
The first anniversary last year was a significant milestone. I’d gone from being fully active to suddenly living with a physical disability, after months spent in hospital and rehabilitation. Returning to work part-time and rebuilding my life felt momentous. This second anniversary, however, crept up on me. Its arrival was primarily prompted by the end of the financial year, a date I often joke about as my “end-of-financial-year leg cut.” It only clicked when June 30th turned into July 1st.
Cheers!
I was sharing this with my sister today over morning tea, here in my hometown of Lismore. It’s been great visiting family and escaping Sydney’s awful weather – the rain, cold, and general gloom. We had a few days of rain here over the weekend, but today was glorious and sunny. People in Sydney often assume Lismore is perpetually flooding, but it’s not! It’s actually really lovely here right now and looks set to stay that way until Sunday.
I’m working from home while I’m here, though I’ll be popping into the Lismore office for a couple of days this week. It’ll be a wonderful chance to see colleagues I genuinely like and remember fondly. When I was in the hospital, they sent me a care package filled with local chocolates, cookies, and coffee. When that package arrived, I honestly burst into tears. It was such an emotional moment, one of many gifts and well wishes I received throughout my hospital stay.
My time in hospital brought me much closer to many of my colleagues, but it also created a distance with others. For some, I’m now simply “the guy with the disability.” But here I am, two years later, still at work. And why not? My office-based job means I can do everything on my computer or mobile, largely communicating with people, which is the essence of my industry.
This entire experience has also strengthened many of my friendships and family relationships. People who visited me in the hospital, looked out for me, and took care of me when I was incredibly vulnerable. They saw me when I was truly sick, in a coma, and even when I was experiencing some pretty wild hallucinations. Love.
It has fundamentally shifted my outlook on life in many ways. I’ve always worked incredibly hard, and while I still give 100%, I’m less inclined to check in outside of hours now. Occasionally I do, but mostly I lead a normal working life.
In the past couple of years, I’ve also felt motivated to achieve things. Perhaps it’s a strange psychological drive to prove myself, both to myself and to others. That’s why I did things like walk in Mardi Gras and travel to China. There’s still a sense of that “young kid from the wrong side of the tracks in Lismore” who feels he needs to prove everything.
I’m also much more acutely aware of my own mortality. I always knew my family wouldn’t live forever, but I came awfully close to the end two years ago. This has prompted me to think deeply about what I want to do with the rest of my life and what that truly means.
Furthermore, I feel a stronger motivation to contribute to disability advocacy. I’ve joined a couple of working groups and engagement groups, which has introduced me to a much broader spectrum of people living with disabilities than I would have encountered in my previous day-to-day life. This has been a truly insightful experience, helping me realize how fortunate I still am in many aspects of my life. Perhaps there’s something meaningful I can do in the disability space to help others.
So, there it is: the unexpected journey of living with a physical disability, coupled with the natural process of getting older. These are the thoughts weighing on my mind as I celebrate my “stump-iversary.”
Can’t say any of them grabbed me but I did like Sivan’s clip. You don’t think Troy is err, you know?
Self-declared!