I’m on the Murray’s bus, headed towards Canberra. Just a moment ago, the driver told us we’ll be arriving roughly forty minutes later than scheduled, due to heavy traffic in Sydney. Despite the delay, I love the bus trip to Canberra: I’ve had a brief nap, answered a bunch of emails, and have read some online newspapers. In some ways, the delay is a blessing, as it has given me the time to begin this, my first “proper” blog post for the year.
Even though I’ve been reasonably busy, both work-wise and socially, I’ve been procrastinating with my blog. Lately, I’ve been thinking my life is a little “boring” right now – just go to work, come hone, watch TV, and listen to the radio, with no exciting overseas holidays to reflect on or anticipate – and therefore have had nothing of value to write about. But then, a few days ago, I remembered when I began this blog years ago I would often write about the movies, books, television I’ve been watching etc, and so this year I’ve decided to also share some of the more “ordinary” parts of my life.
Over the last few weeks I’ve been to see some terrific movies. “Three Billboards” is violent, but compelling. You really need to suspend belief for “The Sound Of Water”, but it’s a beautiful journey. And of course, I’ve been to see “The Big Gay Movie” of the year so far, “Call Me By Your Name”. It’s a wonderful story about the summer relationship between two young men. The relationship is complicated by one of them being under eighteen, though there’s not a huge age gap between them. The end of the film is very sad, and I had a few tears.
Season 4 of “Rita” was released on Netflix last week. Although previously, I’ve binged on the Danish program about a non-conformist teacher, I’ve been taking this new season a little more slowly. Friends who’ve watched the whole series have said on Facebook they found themselves “blubbering”. And so I’m anticipating a sad conclusion, and therefore, have been avoiding “the binge”, wanting to hold off and really enjoy every moment of what I assume will be the final series.
I’ve been slowly enjoying the Hillary Clinton biography (as well as being fairly honest, she shows a fair deal of self-awareness), and I’m about half way through Luke Harding’s book about Russian involvement in the US election, “Collusion”. I’m currently listening to and loving “The Gentle Art of Swedish Death Cleaning”, an older woman’s story of de-cluttering, after the death of her husband. Though the narrator is English, the intonation and the visualisation is taking me on a wonderful trip to Sweden.
There have been a few terrific catch-ups with friends. There was a long lunch at the awesome Chin Chin and drinks at Kinselas with a couple of old school friends; dinner and some jazz, featuring Lily Dior, who performed some of the back catalogue of Sarah Vaughn at 505 Cleveland Steet; and awesome drinks at The Winery with a friend who now lives in Paris, whom I haven’t seen for a couple of years, but who was back in Sydney. In fact, the last time I saw him was in Canberra at the “Australian Of The Year” ceremony, which co-incidentally is why I’m headed to Canberra now.
As my mate and I sat at the Newtown Hotel tonight we pondered for a while the pub’s sexual orientation. For years it had been a legendary “gay” pub run by the very famous/infamous lesbian, Dawn O’Donnell. It was a fun pub that you could hang out with your mates and have a laugh. For example, memorably, at the end of 2006/beginning of 2007, the pub ran a uni-sex amateur striptease competition. Aside from one occasion where an older female stripper showed a little more than the young men in the front row would have liked, it was a fun, joyous competition that pretty much summed up the pub.
And then, three years ago, and with little warning, the hotel closed suddenly. In November 2007, I wrote the following…
Can you imagine the look on my face when I met my mate Graeme yesterday for a drink at the Newtown Hotel , only to discover it had been suddenly closed down? It had been a warm day in Sydney and we were both looking forward to the retro-music night they had recently introduced. On arrival, Graeme broke the bad news. Outside, there were a couple of bouncers keeping a close eye on those passing by, but not explaining why the bar was closed. When we peered through the windows, we were able to see some phones and computers stacked up, but noticed all of the spirits had been removed. Sitting on the footpath around the corner, a couple of the bar stuff told us they had arrived for their shift as usual, and that the reason for the closure had been a leasing dispute with the owners of the building. Nearby someone had erected a small tombstone.
It was about the same time that another famous “gay” pub in nearby Erskineville, The Imperial, closed also. Since then “the gays” have had no “official” place to go in the area. Most of the pubs in Newtown are gay friendly, and very mixed, but there’s been nowhere “official” if you get my meaning. But then suddenly recently The Imperial re-opened, and so too has The Newtown now.
The Newtown Hotel is flying both the rainbow flag and the jolly roger.
But has it re-opened as a gay pub, a mixed pub, or something else altogether? The consensus on places like Same Same seems to be the hotel’s owners aren’t particularly targetting a gay clientele. But then you look around the bar and you’ll find there’s a fair number of gays amongst the customers. The gays seem to have staked a claim on their old territory, whether that’s what the owners want or not. So I was left wondering for quite some time until I walked outside and looked up and noticed the hotel is, once again, flying two rainbow flags. Oh, and a jolly roger. What’s that about? :)
On Saturday, I made my annual pilgrimage to the Art Gallery of New South Wales for the Archibald Prize. While I’ve attended the glitzy opening nights in the past, I now prefer a quieter, more personal visit.
The Archibald is Australia’s most prestigious portrait prize. Judged by the trustees of the gallery, it’s a ‘who’s who’ of Australian culture, featuring portraits of politicians, celebrities, athletes, and artists.
When a friend asked for my verdict on this year’s winning portrait, I had to be honest: it was fine, but it didn’t stir any real emotion in me. In fact, for the first time in a while, it was the main exhibition, not the companion Wynne or Sulman Prizes, that captured my interest. Two paintings in particular stood out (see below), but the celebrated winner left me feeling surprisingly indifferent.
Rona and Pig at Palm Valley by Billy Bain. Portrait of Rona Panangka Rubuntja.Home by Rachel Coad, portrait of Ken Leung
My Sunday morning was spent at Qtopia, Sydney’s vibrant LGBTQIA+ museum, in honour of Pride Month. Housed in the former Darlinghurst Police Station—a site of great historical significance to the queer community—Qtopia opened in 2024 as the largest centre for queer history and culture in the world. Its exhibitions are a powerful journey through more than fifty years of history, charting everything from the fight for homosexual decriminalisation to the devastating impact of the AIDS crisis.
Remembering some of the advertising and information about HIV/AIDS awareness over the last 40 years.A flashback to the early 90s in Wagga Wagga. While I was working at the ABC, these notorious editorials were being published just down the road in the Daily Advertiser. They were authored by Michael McCormack, who would later become Australia’s Deputy Prime Minister.
One exhibit resonated with me on a deeply personal level: a feature on Ward 17 at St. Vincent’s Hospital. This was the city’s first dedicated AIDS ward. The personal significance comes from the fact that, long after it had become the Sacred Heart facility, this exact same ward was where I spent several months in rehabilitation following my amputation a few years ago. I remember friends visiting me at the time and remarking on how long it had been since they were last there, a poignant reminder of a time when they knew so many people within those same walls.
The weekend concluded with a cherished tradition: our monthly “First Sunday Roast Club” (held, this time, on the third Sunday). We gathered at The Village Inn in Paddington, which was buzzing with people making the most of a stunningly beautiful day. Over a glass of wine and an excellent roast lunch, we enjoyed great food and even better conversation—a perfect end to the weekend.
The Food Tours Stockholm’s Nordic Experience Food Tour of Stockholm proved to be a delightful journey filled with gastronomic wonders. My only concern was how to pace myself food-wise throughout the day. Ultimately, I opted for a late breakfast, complemented with a cup of coffee and a small muffin at lunchtime. Little did I know that this decision would prove wise, as the tour treated us to an incredible array of delicacies.
We embarked on our culinary adventure at Hötorgshallen, a vibrant food market located in the heart of the city. There, we relished in a variety of mouthwatering sausages, cheeses, a Finnish rice cake, brown bear, herring, and salmon, accompanied by refreshing water, beer, and Aquavit.
Eating brown bear (the one in the middle) at HötorgshallenThe standout moments were the passionate descriptions of different cheeses by Doktor Käse (Doctor Cheese) and Martin from Hav, who enthusiastically shared his expertise on the herring and salmon dishes.Some crayfish at HötorgshallenSome beer and some Aquavit at Hav at Hötorgshallen
Throughout the tour, we explored a diverse selection of food venues, including charming food shops, inviting restaurants, and cozy cafes. One standout highlight was the delightful organic and fresh gelato from Stikki Nikki, a small yet impressive gelato chain in Stockholm.
At the renowned Stockholm restaurant, Tranan, the chef revealed a delightful secret: their famous köttbullar (Swedish meatballs) aren’t currently on the menu, yet they manage to sell a whopping 70 kilograms of these hand-made delicacies every week. If you’re a local or in the know, you can still savor these mouthwatering meatballs by simply asking for them.
Our adventure culminated in a relaxing fika experience—tea, in my case—inside a historic building that exuded a captivating “dungeon-like” ambiance.
Fika at Rörstrands slott
The camaraderie within the tour group was delightful, comprising locals and international guests from the United States, Singapore, and myself. The group size was deliberately limited to twelve participants, allowing us to fully immerse ourselves in the experience. Our exceptional guide, Gunilla, was a treasure trove of food knowledge and passion. Her friendly demeanor and delightful sense of humor added an extra layer of enjoyment to the tour.
I went to the opening tonight of a terrific exhibition – Joonba, Junba, Juju – currently on show at the University of Technology, Sydney.The exhibition, which is a joint effort between arts centres in the Kimberley, focuses on dance and the artefacts or props used in dance, like spears, boards, and masks, as well as videos and photographs.The opening night of the exhibition had several different joonba (an East Kimberley word for corroborree) and juju.
I recorded a brief report for the team at ABC Kimberley (Broome) which included Chris Griffiths from Waringarri Aboriginal Arts and Gija artist, Phyllis Thomas. They spoke about the importance of sharing traditions both within their own communities, as well as other communities around Australia.
So I left Stockholm this morning, bidding the city a sad farewell. Still, it looks like summer is over (for the moment) after a string of bad weather days. Tallin, by contrast, is quite balmy. That’s only if you consider wearing a pullover in the daytime and a leather jacket at night to be a sign of balmy weather.
The flight from Stockholm to Tallin is less than an hour, though you lose an hour changing time zones. I was sitting next to a bloke reading the Lance Armstrong biography (in English) who had the window seat. Unfortunately, I didn’t get to see much of the landscape/seascape between Stockholm and Tallin, as we were also stuck on the wing. I caught glimpses out of another window, and it looks pretty good from the air.
The bus from the terminal to Tallin central was packed. Like really packed. About half those on board were speaking Russian (which is widely spoken here), while the others seemed to be speaking Estonian, although I did hear a couple of Swedes. As you catch the bus into town you still see evidence of the Soviet era. As if created by “central casting”, a lot of the buildings are run down, and some on the verge of falling down. Nearby, there is also a lot of construction going on, with a lot of it stamped “European Union”. Even here in the old town, there’s a lot of work going on to restore some of the buildings. There’s only one square in the old town that I’d describe as “classically old town” if you know what I mean. Elsewhere, there are a lot of building facades where the concrete overlay is being pulled down, revealing the brickwork underneath.
The hostel I booked to wasn’t anywhere near as glamorous as I’d hoped. I’d read good reviews of City Bike Nunne. But in the end, it was all a little too basic for me. My shared room (one other person) was at the top of a fourth story building. I could hardly stand up, the matress was quite lumpy, and it was hot, bloody hot. The killer for me was the lack of lockers. So, after making a mental decision to go and find somewhere else, I walked down the road, found the nearest western style accommodation and booked in there. Along the way I did see a couple of other hostels that looked okay from the outside. But I guess I realised, as a result of this, my tastes in accommodation are pretty western. Swedish backpacker hostels are fine, but I’m not sure I’m as a liberal in my accommodation tastes once you move a little further into eastern Europe. The bloke at the hostel was fine, by the way, about my change of heart, and I said I would pay for the night anyway.
The Meriton in the Old Town is on an entirely different level. It’s still cheap, by Australian standards, and has all of the mod cons you might expect. I’m actually feeling a little bit run down at the moment. I have a sore toe and I’m feeling a little bit congested. I reckon a couple of days resting up in somewhere nice, having a “holiday” will be just the right thing for me. After the hectic few weeks I’ve had in Sweden, I figure a few days of relaxation in Estonia are quite in order.
There’s a lot to see, though. I bought a “Tallin Card” ($45 Australian) and there’s tours and museums and public transport use and all that kind of stuff covered. I figure after a good rest up in the morning, I’ll hop back on the tourist bandwagon, but at a more leisurely pace than previously.
As I walked around town tonight looking for somewhere for dinner, I chose the middle-level between the tourist-style restaurant (which had everything you would expect of a tourist restaurant) and the pubs inhabited by locals. The cafe I chose, Cafe Reval was quite nice. To my ear, most of those eating and drinking were Russians. And a lot of them were young couples. Presumably Tallin is a popular spot of Russian honeymoons or summer holidays? The meal was fine, though I wish I’d ordered a side meal to go with the duck, as the proportions were decidely “nouveau cuisine” with a lot of sauce and greenery, and not too much in the way of actual duck. The staff, though, were very nice, and more than happy to speak in English. They also responded well to my query about how to say “thank you”. It’s “it-tah” (phonetically speaking) by the way. You could see in the eyes of the woman behind the counter a “thanks for bothering because most people don’t” look.
After dinner I went in search of somewhere for a drink. I’d read in the guide book that “Angel” was the coolest place in town. That, although it was a gay club, it was also the place where the hip people meet, and that they enforce a very strict door policy. Well, it can’t have been too strict, as they let me in. Upstairs there’s a quite nice restaurant/lounge/bar area where there was maybe 30 or 40 people sitting around. Mostly, they were drinking cocktails and spirits, with virtually no one drinking either beer or wine. I had a beer by the way. Just by looking around you could see that, indeed, it was a pretty cool place, as most of the patrons were pretty well dressed and mostly fairly attractive. A lot of them had that “I’m so cool I should look bored” look on their faces. The crowd downstairs in the club was more casually dressed. Memorably, one girl was wearing a t-shirt with the phrase “Help Me, I’m Blondi” (sic) emblazoned on it in English. All of the music was also in English, though the only track I recognised was a remix of “Billie Jean” by Michael Jackson. All of the action was strongly focussed on the dance floor, and for a while I stood upstairs watching the DJ do his thing. After a bit of a drink and a bit of a dance, I left the club, deciding a good night’s sleep was what I needed most.
As I walked outside I noticed two young blokes sitting some distance apart on the footpath. One of them said something to me. Although I didn’t know what he was saying, I suspect he was actually a rent-boy. I just knew from the way he spoke, and the way he looked at me, that’s what was on offer. With a simple shake of my head, I continued walking back to the motel. Getting there wasn’t easy though. Stockholm was easy to get around, because of the language knowledge I had, and all of that cultural knowledge you get from speaking one of the Germanic languages. But here in Tallin, where the words don’t even bear any resemblance to something you might find in English, I’ve found it a little difficult, even with a map. After about twenty minutes walking around, and even asking a local shop-keeper and security guard for assistance, I decided it was all too hard. So I got a cab, and for about $8 (Australian) was delivered safely back to my door.
In case you were wondering, my office was blue and yellow (almost the colours of the Swedish flag) BEFORE I moved in. The only additions have been the little Swedish flag, the postcards, and the tickets for a range of concerts I plan to attend in March.
That said, I did some re-decoration when I moved into the office several weeks ago. First, I re-oriented the desk. It’s the third time I’ve done this on taking over a new office. Even though a desk is perceived by some to be a “barrier”, I think it’s really important to face people as they come into your office. To greet them with a smile etc. Second, I re-oriented the couch so you didn’t find yourself squinting into the daylight as you sat down. It’s also in a much more convenient position for an afternoon nap, too. (That’s a joke, by the way). And third, I removed an older piece of furniture which was, in my view, just taking up space.
My office
The only re-decoration I haven’t done yet is with the prints on the wall. I’ve got an OLD transmission map of Australia which belongs in the archives, and a bunch of ideas about images I’d like to surround myself with. But otherwise I’m pretty happy with the space which easily transforms itself from workstation to meeting place, and is bright, open and cheery. I was telling/boring a colleague about this on the phone today, and promised to send her some photographs, especially since she had previously worked in this office.
My office
After the madness of the last couple of weeks, work was a little quieter today. I even had time to go out for lunch. And when I did I discovered a new Mexican take-away near work. “How long have you been here? And do you still have the place at Centrepoint?”, I asked the woman behind the counter. She seemed a little surprised that I recognised her, but pleased nonetheless. I love Mexican food. And for the last few years whenever I’ve been in the vicinity of Centrepoint, I’ve made it a habit to pop into her “hole in the wall” Mexican take-away. She explained to me the cost of rent, and the disruptions caused by the Centrepoint renovation forced her out. And that she had been in the area for about seven months, and was doing quite well with the nearby combination of the university, the ABC, and a few government departments. She’s such a lovely lady, and it was great chatting to her for a while. She explained she had been running this business for twenty five years. Great eh?
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Yes! I love the ordinary and mundane moments!
I’ve had a sample of the gentle art of swedish death cleaning on my kindle for a while, wondering if I should pull the trigger on buying the actual book. I hadn’t even considered the audiobook – excellent idea.
Yes! I love the ordinary and mundane moments!
I’ve had a sample of the gentle art of swedish death cleaning on my kindle for a while, wondering if I should pull the trigger on buying the actual book. I hadn’t even considered the audiobook – excellent idea.
I am so loving the audio book.