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I first encountered Tom Nash’s story while I was in the hospital, navigating the immediate aftermath of my own amputation. I read his book, Hook, Line & Sinner, during those early, difficult days and later revisited it by listening to the audiobook, which I found a bit easier to consume at that stage of my recovery. His perspective was one of the few things that truly resonated with me during that time.

Today, I had the privilege of sitting down with Tom for an interview to discuss his “turbulent existence” since losing all four limbs at the age of nineteen due to meningococcal disease. This conversation will feature as part of my podcast, The Limb Shift, which explores the lived experiences of limb loss and limb difference. I am currently deep in production and anticipate that the series will launch around April or May 2026.

Now in his mid-forties, Tom’s journey from a hospital bed to becoming a successful nightclub DJ, business owner, and international speaker offers lessons in what he calls antifragility.

Tom is pragmatic about identity, refusing to let disability become his entire persona. He told me, “Disability is a part of my life, but it’s not every part of my life. I think one of the things that I get irritated about with many people is that one aspect of their life becomes their complete identity”.

This outlook extends to his choice of prosthetics; he uses hooks designed after the First World War because they are lightweight, easy to maintain, and allow him to be self-reliant. This constant need for adaptation has shaped his entire worldview: “You’re not going to be doing things the way that people always do them. You’re going to have to approach problems from a different angle”.

He shared a brilliant story about trying to use a BIC lighter with his hooks. After days of frustration, he realized he didn’t actually need a lighter—he just needed to use BBQ matches. As Tom explained, “Most of the time when you’re solving problems… you’re trying to use a lighter, not trying to set fire to something. It’s about redefining the problem or working out what the outcome or the objective actually is”.

We also discussed moving forward after trauma, specifically his concept of antifragility—growing stronger because of stressors rather than just bouncing back. “Antifragility is growing stronger through challenges,” he noted, comparing the mind to an immune system that responds to pressure. He also touched on the often-misunderstood nature of trauma, stating that “telling people that they’re traumatized is sometimes traumatizing” because it imposes an expectation of how they should feel. For Tom, the path forward was fueled by a sense of duty: “You feel a sense of responsibility to overcome because of how much those people have invested in you”.

Tom’s philosophy is built on focusing on small, immediate goals. Reflecting on learning to walk again, he said, “The end actually comes quicker when you’re focusing on small little goals in front of you and not getting too bogged down in the… end goal of being a complete person”. Today, he lives with a refined sense of agency and perspective, rarely planning more than six months ahead to stay open to opportunity. He remains firm in his ownership of life: “You’re the only one standing in the way of you becoming everything that you could possibly be… nobody else can fix that for you”.

Twenty-five years after his life changed, Tom continues to look forward, focusing on his Youtube show Last Meal and on preparing to write his next book. You can find more about his work and speaking at tomnash.com.

Take a listen to what he had to said about giving advice to others.