Quiet Friday Night
Dinner with Kate at East Ocean, and then home to bed. Gosh it’s been a long week.
Almost everyone who has ever visited Nimbin as a tourist will regale you with a story of how they were walking down the main street of Nimbin and were approached, and were asked if they wanted to buy some marijuana. It’s almost a badge of honour for some. But looking back on my forty-something years of visiting Nimbin, I can honestly say it’s never happened to me. I probably look far too straight.

Today, I thought I might be approached. I had my camera hanging around my neck, and I was wearing a tourist t-shirt. But no, nothing. That said, I was with a mate, a long-term local, and the only green stuff we were interested in was parsley to add to the pasta. The Emporium was sold out. Outrageous!



Jokes aside, I had a lovely day with friends, visiting them on their farm, and here are some photographs from my visit.
“Are you here every Friday night”, the woman in the queue in front of me asked, as she looked up to one of the men in the Yum Cha truck. He told her they were here most Fridays, unless there are problems with the traffic.
I’ve noticed this myself, as I normally walk past them on my way home from work. Normally, I try to resist the temptation. But at the end of a very busy week, this was an irresistible option for Friday night dinner. To be honest, not all that tasty, but definitely filling and definitely easy.


Having made the decision to go looking for some better accommodation this morning, I figured I’d make use of the free breakfast before I left. I won’t begin to tell you the revulsion I felt in seeing people use their fingers to separate the cheese slices in the absence of knives and forks. The coffee was okay though.
So I went into town to the Amsterdam Hotel Bureau and sought the assistance of the kind man there. He found me a lovely single room with my own bathroom, satellite television, and wifi, for only marginally more than the cost of the hostel dormitory bed. I love him. And I love the man on the reception downstairs who has made me feel incredibly comfortable and welcomed.
I kinda felt sorry for the young bloke on reception back at the hostel who had to deal with me. I wasn’t rude, far from it. In fact I was probably too nice using the classic, “It’s not you, it’s me” excuse to explain why I couldn’t stay there any longer. But I guess he just wasn’t used to someone deciding they couldn’t stay.
And then I thought about these poor young kids who stay in some of these hostels who are being exploited, asked to pay unreasonable amounts of money for sub-standard accommodation and I’m sure most of them don’t complain.
After dealing with all of the associated dramas, I began sight-seeing in earnest. My major task for the day was doing one of those “under the bridges” canal tours of Amsterdam, and gosh it was fantastic. The weather was great and I had a really wonderful time.
And the best thing? I was sitting next to a Dutch couple who were showing some friends around the city. When the woman realised I was Australian, she included me in her commentary with a special English language version. Great eh? A further demonstration of my belief the Dutch seem to be a very friendly, welcoming people. I could be wrong, but it’s the impression I have so far.
After a bite to eat, I came back to my room for a shower and a quick lie down. I didn’t sleep all that much last night – surprise surprise – so I really needed a nap.
And before you know it, it was time to meet up with Peter from Tippin’ The Scales, a Dutch blogger who I have been reading for a while, and he my blog. Peter is SUCH a lovely guy. We had three or four hours of great conversation about our lives, and the things we find interesting such as travel and food. He introduced me to some typical Dutch cuisine at a local restaurant and took me to the Americain Hotel which is an absolutely gorgeous building dating back to around 1890-1900.
What a great way to end what was a pretty bad start to the day.
“I have a connection to the pub across the road” I told the woman who was looking after things at St Bede’s Catholic Church in Appin today. “Two of my ancestors ran the pub back in the 1840s”, I told her, referring to William Rixon and Ann Hoare.
“There was a close connection between the church and the pub” she told me, pointing to the family, the Carolls who owned the pub and who ran it as a guest and boarding house, who were buried in the graveyard. “The sisters also used to have rooms there”, she added.
With a strong and long-term interest in family history, I hopped on a train early this morning and made my way to the 200th Anniversary Celebrations for Appin, located about 15km from Campbelltown in Sydney’s West. My ancestral connection to Appin is pretty much confined to the period when they ran The Union Revived. Their main connection was with Campbelltown itself, which is where William is buried, along with his mother, in the graveyard of the Anglican Church. I visited their graves also today, for the first time. Meanwhile, Ann went on to marry a few more times, moved closer to the city, and was finally burried under the name Ann Phibbs at Waverley Cemetery. I visited her grave a few months ago.
After a look around the St Bede’s Cemetery, I made my way down the street to watch the street parade. Mostly, the parade was made up of school groups, sports teams, organisations like the Rural Fire Service and pipe bands. I couldn’t believe there could be that many bagpipes in one parade, but then I guess, the area is called The Southern Highlands and the main town is Campbelltown. My favourites were a young girl, maybe five years old, who was impressively beating her drum in time, and seeing a 16 year old emo girl as part of one of the bands. Later I saw an emo boy dressed up in colonial gear which also gave me a bit of a giggle.
Naturally enough, there were art displays, Aboriginal cultural displays, sausage sizzles, jumping castles, and of course gözleme.
But for me, the most interesting thing was going to see the pub that was once run by some of my ancestors. The building is in a very poor state of repair now. There were no signs to say you couldn’t enter the building, so I just did. But as I walked through I needed to be particularly careful, as I discovered the floor could give way with one too heavy foot-step. “It’s a real shame it’s in such a poor state of repair”, a woman who was doing the same said to me as we passed each other.
I picked up a book about the town which mentions William Rixon’s brief period at the pub, and I placed an order for another book commemorating the anniversary.
And that cleaned me out of my planned spending money for the day which became a bit of a problem as I went to use the ATM at the servo. “It’s empty”, I told the bloke behind the counter. “Yeah, it’s been flat out since five o’clock this morning”, he told me. I reckon it was one of the busiest days in the history of Appin.
It’s Saturday morning in Sydney. Just woken up (it’s 10am) and already it seems like it’s going to be a warm day. I’ll just check the forecast. According to the Bureau of Meterology, It’s going to be 29 in Sydney and 35 in Richmond. Already seems much warmer. Anyhoo, just watching “Video Hits” on Channel 10 – where all the current releases appear to be cover versions – and I thought I’d take the chance to update you on my life over the last few days. Although Tuesday night (my usual television night with “The Bill”… and “Rove” has returned), was spent at home, the last few days and nights have been quite busy.
On Wednesday night, I went to see a play at the Newtown Theatre called, “The Nothing Men” which is being promoted as your chance to see the play before the movie is made. In some respects, there are thematic similarities with “The Full Monty” with its interest in the lives of a group of working class men facing redundancy, but there is a more dramatic side story, and one which is ultimately more important, which concerns a man caring for his child with a severe disability. According to the publicity blurb on their website
Mirage Entertainment began the journey of The Nothing Men in 1997, originally as a feature film script. It has since attracted national and international attention, receiving several grants from the Australian Film Commission.
It will be interesting to see what actually happens with the movie. I thought it was okay… not great… not awful. It was okay.
On Thursday, I went to see the exhibition, “Hung Drawn & Quartered”, which
reflects the progress gay men and lesbians have made over the last quarter century toward full social and legal equality. Artists were invited to show work which is representative of societal and cultural world in the 1970s and work which reflects the directions we are taking now.
And then on Thursday night, I went to a Mardi Gras event called “Rant”, held at the “Hollywood Hotel” in Surry Hills. The Hollywood is a great little pub, having transformed itself in the last couple of years from being a big alcoholic pub into an artsy kind of pub. RANT described itself as
a queer literary extravaganza. Ten authors, 10 texts, emerging and established voices. All border-dwellers who are stretching the limits of genre, generation, and the borders of the queerlit map.
I thought both events were okay… not great. Either I’m getting older and a little more consdervative or my tastes are maturing and “shock” doesn’t shock me anymore, but both events reinforced in my mind my annoyance that “gay and lesbian arts” dwell a little too much on the sexual. For a gay/lesbian audience, do so many of the works need to include references to genitalia? I understand all of the cultural arguments in this debate, and am happy to entertain those thoughts, but from my own perspective, it’s all a bit passe.
Also this week I went to “Politics In The Pub” at the Gaelic Club.
What is Politics in the Pub? We are people who characterise ourselves as “left” and “democratic” who have established a left politico cultural focus in Sydney to promote cross fertilisation and discussion. We are not establishing another political party. All are welcome, children too Discussion starts at 6pm and ceases promptly at 7.30pm. Dinner afterwards in the Pub opposite or in nearby restaurants.
I’m sure most of those who were there, over the age of 50, were former members of the Communist Party, as Damien and I heard several examples of “Cold War/Old Left Paranoia”. On entering the club, and signing in, as you do at a registered club, one woman said to us, quite seriously, “They’re making us sign in so the CIA can get a list of who we all are”. The crowd was, without doubt, the biggest they’ve ever had “Politics In The Pub” which, one bloke, behind us in the beer queue, bemoaned as “it’s ruined, there are too many people here. They’ve ruined it!”. A comment which I thought reaked of old left defeatism – that self-righteous “we’re the oppressed minority leading the vanguard fighting the Menzies…. err Howard Government”.
In all honesty, despite grave concerns about the war, the big drawcard for the evening was the actor, Judy Davis. She spoke eloquently, although a little reluctantly (she said) about her personal concerns about the war, about oil and American neo-imperialism The other bloke who spoke – can’t recall his name – discussed a number of interesting issues, in particular, notions about whether or not our blind observance of American and English foreign policy/a “mother/father figure”, is an endemic part of the Australian culture. It was interesting stuff.
From there it was off to see the play, “The Dock Brief” at the Ensemble Theatre. The blurb describes it as
A murderous comedy about the law. British writer and barrister, Sir John Mortimer, best known as creator of Rumpole of the Bailey, brings his legal insights to the stage in The Dock Brief, his most famous West End play and the inspiration for Rumpole of the Bailey. The play gives new meaning to the phrase “ineffective assistance of counsel‿?. Morgenhall is an unsuccessful barrister who has waited for years for the court to assign him a case. His first “dock brief‿? is the defence of the unfortunate Mr Fowle, the meek proprietor of a birdseed shop who has been charged with the murder of his wife because she saw humour in everything, and her raucous laughter and practical jokes finally drove him over the edge. Morgenhall is determined to give the courtroom performance of a lifetime although nothing prepares him, Fowle or the audience for the final twist in the plot.
As it’s a reasonably short play, Warren Mitchell returned for the second half in a series of jokes and anecdotes about life in the threatre. He was hillarious, interacting beautifully with the audience. Aged 77, Mitchell ended the show with the poem by Roger McGough, “Let Me Die A Young Man’s Death”. Unfortunately I can’t find a copy of the poem on the web, but I will endeavour to find a copy.
So that’s my life until now.
This afternoon, I’m going out for a few drinks and then tomorrow, it’s the big peace march.
At the pub tonight, we were discussing Thelma Scott and Gwen Plumb, apropos of absolutely nothing. I was reading my friend Graeme’s blog the other night and was reminded of the story of Thelma Scott. We all remembered her vividly, and with fondness, as a character from Number 96.

With that inspiration, I went on an internet search for her, and discovered she and Gwen Plumb, another iconic Australian figure were probably in a long-tem relationship. You would never know, though, from some of the online references…
Her funeral notice, for example, makes only a passing reference to theirs being a “great friendship”…
SCOTT, Thelma. Passed away peacefully at Royal North Shore Hospital, November 24, 2006. Formerly of Kirribilli. Great friend of Gwen Plumb (deceased) and Elaine Lee. Dear cousin of Shirley, Ann and Paddy. Sadly Missed. The relatives and friends of THELMA are kindly invited to attend her funeral service, this Wednesday (November 29, 2006), in the East Chapel of the Northern Suburbs Crematorium Delhi Road, North Ryde, commencing at 1.30 p.m. In lieu of flowers donations would be greatly appreciated to The Guide Dogs of Australia in Thelma’s honour
Her Wikipedia entry is equally circumspect…
For many years Scott lived in Kirribilli, New South Wales with Plumb, who died on 5 June 2002. They also had a house at Whale Beach where they hosted luncheons for show business colleagues. Four-and-a-half years later, Thelma Scott died of a heart attack at the Royal North Shore Hospital in Sydney. She was 93 years old, a fact noted by all the obituary writers who referred to her as the grand dame of Australian actors.
Gwen’s, however, is a little more forthright.
Her long-term partner was actress, Thelma Scott.
There’s also a reference to their working relationship in Thelma’s Wikipedia entry…
Scott also worked as a director on the opening night show of Channel Ten Sydney in 1965, titled TV Spells Magic, and did a stint as director on the daily chat show The Gwen Plumb Show.
But clearly they were in relationship. Theirs was not a “friendship”, it was a “relationship”.
Thelma’s obitury in The Australian was a little more forthright…
THELMA Scott, thespian and lifelong partner of actor Gwen Plumb, died last week at her Sydney home, aged 93. Scott’s career stretched from her first role in 1931 at Melbourne’s Comedy Theatre through countless radio and TV appearances, including Skippy, Bellbird, The Young Doctors, Richmond Hill and Glenview High. In 1972 Scott played socialite Claire Houghton in Number 96. The role was written for her by series creator David Sale. Although she once said she “jumped at the role”, she also notoriously sent the producers a telegram before joining, saying she didn’t want any patterned drapes on her set. She was providing her own expensive wardrobe and didn’t want the competition.
I didn’t know them, so I can’t be sure. And although I respect the privacy issue, and I appreciate their relationship was from a different time and era, I still feel a little sad their obvious relationship was referred only even in modern times as a “friendship”.
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