I recently made the decision to sponsor another child and received a package in the mail tonight from Childfund Australia, confirming details of my new “sponsor child”, Nancy. For the last six or seven years, I’ve been sponsoring a young boy in Ethiopia, called Nureden. He’s almost twelve now, and although I don’t know him in the way you’re “supposed to know sponsor children” (aside from the occasional updates on his progress), I certainly feel a strong commitment to maintain monthly payments to support him and his family… because I can afford to.
Unfortunately I sense amongst some people in Australia a degree of cynicism about child sponsorship. At the heart of this cynicism are concerns some of the money is wasted along the way and that the idea of child sponsorship is inherently paternalistic. In his song September 10, Eddie Perfect (who I really like), also offers the idea child sponsorship somehow “picks winners” while condemning others. And yes, there are probably other organisations which may do a better job in assisting communities. But even if all those issues are true, I still think it’s great there are schemes like the one offered by Childfund Australia, where people like myself can do something to help families and communities in need. Yes, I know I could hop on a plane and go to Africa and be “hands on”, but I don’t know if I’d be very good at that, and I’m not sure how much help I could actually be.
In the meantime, I have a well paid job and I live in a wealthy country which, by and large, looks after its people well. As I don’t have children of my own (and no, this is not some kind of child replacement therapy for myself), I can afford the $70 per month it costs to provide support to the families of these two young children. I also give money, by the way, to Medicins Sans Frontieres, which I think does a terrific job in providing volunteer medical assistance to people in many needy countries.
In the grand scheme of things, $25-30 per week, is a small percentage of my income, which I’d probably otherwise waste on useless crap I don’t need. It’s a no-brainer, really.
On the way to the supermarket this morning, I ran into Santa.
It’s worth noting, however, that in Surry Hills, Santa looks a little different. The Surry Hills Santa was young, good looking and wearing thongs.
And when I asked him for a photograph, he gave me a free pair of thongs. But not your stock-standard supermarket thongs I normally buy that cost about $5. These were uber-comfortable $30 Havianas! Grattis! It was obviously one of those promotional activities you often see at this time of the year, and the fact I’ve blogged about it seems to suggest it worked :) I asked, BTW, if it was okay to share this pic.
When I walked in the door of my apartment this afternoon, the first thing I noticed was how the lifeless stalks I bought last week had become wonderful blooms. They don’t have a lot of fragrance, they’re not overly attractive, but there’s something about them I quite like. Maybe it’s the extended period (more than a week) that it’s taken for them to emerge? Perhaps, deep down, I think it’s somehow analogous for something far deeper?
Apartment Flowers
I came home early this afternoon, as I’m heading into work equally early for the next few days. As I caught the bus in at about 5.45 this morning, I couldn’t help but notice how happy everyone on-board seemed. Though later in the morning, people on the buses which go from Cleveland Street to Railway Square are often grumpy – people don’t talk and avoid each other’s gaze – this morning they were chatty and friendly. Maybe I should catch the bus to work at this time more often?
Jacaranda Tree – Oxford Street, Paddington
Many of my work-mates today told me they had a case of Monday-itis. Quite a few of them had come to work my birthday drinks on Friday (I showed around the photographs), and had continued with a range of social activity over the weekend. I also had a fairly memorable weekend.
When I woke on Saturday, one of the first things I did was write a couple of blog posts and ask Graeme to email me the photographs he had taken the night before. Not long after, I had a phone call from Colin who was having a problem with his computer. After unsuccessfully trying to fix the problem over the telephone I wandered over to his place later in the afternoon.
And then on Saturday night, The Other Andrew and I went to see Kiki & Herb at the Sydney Opera House. Although I had booked the tickets on Andrew’s recommendation, I wasn’t entirely sure if I would enjoy the show, possibly best described as “anarchic New York drag cabaret”. Even as the show began, I wasn’t entirely sure if I would or could enjoy two hours of this, even though I loved the opening numbers.
But I did. I really loved the show. I loved the hardline political comment. I loved the way nothing was “off limits”, including – I swear – the deaths of Jon-Benet Ramsay and Madeline McCann. I loved the way Kiki and Herb played with a variety of musical genres. I loved the strength of their individual performances. And when Kiki attacked a group of very drunk people in the front row, I applauded loudly. “This is shameful that I have to ask you, but would you please shut up, and remember that you’re in a theatre watching a show, you’re not in a bar”, Kiki told the front row group which had been chatting throughout most of the show. As the audience errupted into cheers and applause, the group of women in the front row folded their arms and pursed their lips. For the two of the women in the front row it was a call to arms, as defiantly, they then continued to chatter throughout the remainder of the performance. Why did they come, I wondered? And why did they book front row seats? And why, when they were told they were annoying the performers (and presumably the rest of the audience), did they continue. Arrogance or booze? Or a combination of both, perhaps?
Jacaranda Tree – Oxford Street, Paddington
Hopefully in years to come my memory of the night won’t be over-shadowed by this terrible embarassing incident, when the show itself was so incredibly wonderful. With plans to visit New York next year, I would love to see Kiki & Herb again. This was just the kind of cutting-edge cabaret I would love to see more of. And when I heard on the news over the weekend of the Stage Hand’s Strike which has closed down much of Broadway at the moment, I mentioned to a colleague at work today… “It better not happen when I’m in New York next year”.
Although my social calendar for next week is looking fairly bare – aside from catching up with my friend Yvette for dinner at Mohr Fish (she’s never been there before, despite living in Surry Hills for a number of years) – this week is fairly busy. As well as ABBAMANIA on Wednesday and Fruits in Suits on Thursday, I’ve been invited to a BBQ/Thingy on Friday night.
Hopefully, that leaves me enough time to actually be at home to enjoy my beautiful flowers. Mind you, outdoors at the moment there’s lots to enjoy also, especially the Jacarandas. Although I believe they’re actually a “pest” in the true sense of the word, they’re absolutely beautiful, and particularly noticeable around Victoria Barracks at the moment. Oh and the Jasmine… it’s out already, though not especially fragrant just yet.
“There were so many podcasts I’ve never heard of”, I told quite a few people at last night’s Australian Podcast Awards. Though I knew a lot of people attending, including quite a few finalists and winners, there was a distinct “knowledge gap” for me about many of the commercial sector podcasts.
In contrast to the recent podcast day I attended, this was a much more “commercial” event. https://thelimbshift.com/2022/10/are-podcasts-dying/ There were quite a few nominees and winners from the ABC, including the podcast I work on. However, most of the nominees and winners were from podcast apps like Listnr, I Heart and Nova.
As well as some great company and conversations (and a few drinks/food), I came home with a long list of podcasts to listen to. These include “Hi, I’m Eddie” https://www.slq.qld.gov.au/discover/podcasts/hi-im-eddie produced by former ABC colleague, Rhianna Patrick, and the overall winner, “The Last Outlaw” https://thelastoutlaws.com.au/ I also came home with a realisation I need to seek out more podcasts from the commercial radio and community sectors, to know more about podcasts than just the ABC.
It all started on Friday night when a couple of friends and I went to the recording of an ABC TV special, to go to air in the lead-up to Christmas. Hosted by Nazeem Hussein, the special featured a range of musicians and comedians, with an emphasis on diversity. There were lots of laughs.
Some of the acts appearing on the Christmas Cabaret special to screen in December on ABC TV.
It was such a delight to see long-time musical favorites like Linda and Vika Bull appear live, as well as remote video inserts from Paul Kelly in Melbourne and Kate Miller-Heidke in Brisbane. We all laughed out loud at the “rather spicy” lyrics of the song by Kate about “growing a beard down there for Christmas”.
Vika and Linda Bull, performing at the Christmas Cabaret special to air on ABC TV in the lead up to Christmas.
And then on Saturday, the same couple of friends and I went to the Marrickville Musical Festival. It was very much a “grassroots” musical festival, with school bands and lots of indi performers across a range of genres.
I wore my “Lismore T-Shirt” (gotta keep the word out there!!) and received lots of positive affirmations.”I love Lismore too”, one bloke said to me, sparking a realisation afterwards I might have recognised his face from home. And of course, I couldn’t resist this photo opportunity. “You can’t keep away from floods”, a friend joked on Facebook.
On Sunday I went to see the movie, “Bros”, which has been described as “the first mainstream gay romcom”. It had all of the conventional story of “love gone wrong, and then finally achieved” you find in most romcoms, except the two lead characters are men.
As much as I loved the idea of playing with the convention, I still found the film somewhat annoying. In fact, I thought it was a little “too gay” for my liking. In the back of the romantic comedy, there was a lot about “gay politics” and identity that I just wasn’t interested in. I understand why it was there, to contrast the lives of the two lead characters, I just found it personally a little distracting and alienating.
And from there, I went to the nearby Uniting Church at Newtown for the installation of my friend Karina Kreminski as a minister for one of the emerging communities, Surry Hills.
It was a wonderful experience to be there, to share the experience, and to hear an affirmation of faith.
As I looked down on the ice and saw the surname, “Dahlberg” on the back of player number twenty-seven, I thought for a moment I could have been in Stockholm. Except for the fact I’ve never actually seen an ice-hockey match played in Sweden. In fact, this was my first ever ice-hockey match, and the man called Dahlberg was playing for “Melbourne Ice”, playing the “Sydney Bears” at the ice-hockey rink located inside the shopping centre opposite Sydney’s Macquarie University.
Dahlberg for Sydney Bears
My discovery of the ice-hockey scene in Australia is only a recent one. Quite by accident, I discovered there’s a “Sweden Day” at a forthcoming ice-hockey match in Melbourne. As I was already planning to be in Melbourne on the day, and as the match was being played at the O’Brien Arena, I felt it was “fate” that I should attend.
Sydney Bears
As I began to dig deeper, I also discovered there was a “Pride Match” being played this weekend. “Pride Matches” are becoming popular in Australian sports, partly to make up for all of the homophobia which has been evident in many sports. There were lots of rainbow flags, an opening speech highlighting some of the issues faced by LGBTQI people, and a brief appearance by the first trans woman to appear in the Australian ice-hockey league.
My friend who came with me is much more into sport than I am. I wasn’t sure if I would enjoy it, but I did. The match was fast, and we were both amazed by the all-round skills and athleticism of the players.
Sydney Bears
It was genuinely good entertainment. For only $20 entry, it really was a terrific way to spend over two hours late this afternoon. I’m looking forward to the match in Melbourne, and I think I’ll probably come back to further matches in Sydney. And of course, if I have to pick a team, it will be the Sydney Bears.
It’s Tuesday night and I’ve just been to the launch of the new Richard Glover book, Desperate Husbands, at Shearers Bookstore in Leichhardt. Oddly enough, I’ve just discovered today there’s two h’s in Leichhardt, which has come as quite a revelation.
The last few days have been reasonably uneventful as I’ve slept in, watched television and haven’t done very much at all. I love holidays! An example of my general malaise is that it was only at 5pm today that I heard about the terrorist raids. I’m reassured though, by the cab driver who brought me home who asked if I knew anything about these raids he’d just heard about.
My other favourite cab driver today, who took me to the book launch, I discovered was listening to Vega 953. Curious, I asked him what he listened to for music before Vega and he replied WS-FM. He was in his late 20s/early 30s. And then, when I told him why I was interested, he told me he mostly listens to 702, but turned the radio over because he thought I looked like such a cool dude that I wouldn’t like 702. He told me he thought Vega was also boring and that Rebecca and Tony had no personalities. This made me smile.
Anyway, nothing else to report except that I turn 40 tomorrow. My plans for the day include a walk around the botanic gardens, lunch with Colin, a “Swiss Cellular Treatment For Men” (bought for me 12 months ago), followed by drinks at Henry Henry. I think it will be a good fun day.
If you would have asked me yesterday if I was keen to attend a gallery opening in a Kings Cross car park, I would have definitely said no.
For the past week I’ve been pretty crook. I haven’t been sleeping well. I haven’t been eating well. I swear, I have the world’s biggest cold sore on my lip. I left work early on Friday, and spent most of the long weekend in bed sleeping trying to recover from whatever illness this is. “You should take a week off, just stay at home”, a friend said to me earlier today.
I’ve been worrying about friends and family who all seem to be going through really difficult times at the moment. My life is fine, nothing to worry about there. I feel like I’m absorbing part of their trauma, as if it’s my way of helping them. Sharing the load and all. In reality, there’s not a lot I can do from a distance, though I sometimes fantasize I could be/should be, the knight in shining armour who can come in and solve everything. The best I can do is pray.
As is often the case, my retreat from stress and discomfort is for my body to go into my own self-indulgent melt-down and find sleep is the solution.
By today, though I was beginning to feel better in myself, even if the fortunes of family and friend may not be the same. So when Kate asked if I wanted to go to a gallery opening tonight, I jumped at the opportunity.
Betel Leaf – pic Catherine Croll
Even though we had the address, it took us a while to find the pop-up gallery run by the Alaska Art Projects in the Kings Cross Car Park. The streets of The Cross are often difficult to navigate. And yes, as you can see from the photograph, it was quite literally an art gallery on the second level of a carpark.
It was all very cutting edge. All very pop-up. Though we didn’t think all that much of the art works on display, we did enjoy the space, we loved the sense of adventure of doing a gallery in a carpark, and the people we chatted to were genuinely very lovely.
After the gallery, we grabbed a bit to eat at a Kings Cross restaurant, the name of which escapes me. Excellent food, though.
Two delightful hours.
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Hey I agree with you – I was especially proud of my 12 year old who is sponsoring a child – it takes about 90% of his pocket money. (So I compensate in other ways…)
And I like the new look although I must confess I do miss the thongs…
CB
Sponsoring a child is so fulfilling. Child poverty is a serious thing. My way to fight poverty is to sponsor a child. I sponsored a child through Children International and it was and is a great experience.
I enjoyed reading your post. Its so goood to read of a man who can feel as you do. You expressed yourself very well and you sound like a very generous man. I wish there were more men like you with the same way of thinking.If there were we might have our children all sponsored right now.Actually we dont have a male sponsor yet now that i think of it.Your a rare breed.I just started a blog myself still cant quite get the hang of it but if you get a chance go read about our children,we are a bit different in that we are much more hands on and connected to the childrens home we sponsor.It truly is a great feeling knowing that one can change the outcome of another life just by a small donation.
I wish you well with both children,they are lucky to have you and if you ever find yourself in a position to add yet another child i hope you will consider one of the children at http://www.annamanichildren.wordpress.com
take care!!
Hey I agree with you – I was especially proud of my 12 year old who is sponsoring a child – it takes about 90% of his pocket money. (So I compensate in other ways…)
And I like the new look although I must confess I do miss the thongs…
CB
Sponsoring a child is so fulfilling. Child poverty is a serious thing. My way to fight poverty is to sponsor a child. I sponsored a child through Children International and it was and is a great experience.
I enjoyed reading your post. Its so goood to read of a man who can feel as you do. You expressed yourself very well and you sound like a very generous man. I wish there were more men like you with the same way of thinking.If there were we might have our children all sponsored right now.Actually we dont have a male sponsor yet now that i think of it.Your a rare breed.I just started a blog myself still cant quite get the hang of it but if you get a chance go read about our children,we are a bit different in that we are much more hands on and connected to the childrens home we sponsor.It truly is a great feeling knowing that one can change the outcome of another life just by a small donation.
I wish you well with both children,they are lucky to have you and if you ever find yourself in a position to add yet another child i hope you will consider one of the children at http://www.annamanichildren.wordpress.com
take care!!